دانلود کتاب کار با خاطرات کودکی و اجتناب در مشاوره تروما – قدرت یادآوری

The history of this book can be traced back to a moment of avoidance, the kind of avoidance we all slip into when something feels too tedious, too uncomfortable, or simply too much. About three years ago, I sat at my desk, staring at a pile of paperwork I had no desire to touch. Evaluation reports, assessment notes, admin – necessary tasks, but heavy with bureaucracy and utterly uninspiring. I felt mildly frustrated, knowing full well I was procrastinating and knowing I would eventually have to return to it all. But, in that moment, I chose to avoid. In my procrastination and avoidance, I found myself browsing professional development courses. Various seminars, webinars, and counselling workshops populated training websites offering a range of options to choose from. As I scrolled through the offerings, it became glaringly obvious: there was almost nothing on childhood trauma or complex trauma, let alone any that focused on the intersection of the two. Feeling disappointed at this gap, I had an idea. What if I could offer the training I wished existed? I have been treating childhood trauma and complex trauma for over 15 years – why not share how I work? I was eager to share my practice insights and I was excited to bring my fellow clinicians together, inviting them to exchange ideas and contribute to a collective body of knowledge that would enrich us all. So, while avoiding the paperwork I was meant to be doing, I began sketching out a workshop on childhood trauma counselling instead. The core pillars of treatment I had been using with clients all along, working with childhood mem¬ories and understanding avoidance, naturally shaped the workshop’s curriculum. Within six months, I held the first session, which drew a surprisingly large group of clinicians. Many stated that they too were looking for an opportunity to discuss childhood trauma and complex trauma counselling beyond theories, by sharing practical experiences of clinical work as it unfolds in consulting rooms. From that first event, the workshops grew, broadening in scope and richness, shaped by the shared commitment of practitioners hungry for in-depth conversations about childhood and complex trauma recovery. What stood out about those workshops was the universal recognition of childhood memories and their role in treatment, independent of practitioner back¬ground. Whether trained in cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), eye movement desensitisation and reprocessing (EMDR), or sand play, clinicians were not only inspired but intrigued by focusing on childhood memories in sessions. Across the board, the importance of these memories was acknowledged, but so was the role of avoidance, a phenomenon not rare or accidental but commonly present in many therapeutic journeys. Practitioners across all modalities said that, by drawing attention to childhood memories and the natural avoidance that surrounds them, I was highlighting something both obvious and overlooked. Childhood memories were readily available – sitting in the room with every client – and yet, for many, they were the most avoided material in sessions. ‘How can memories be utilised?’ was the question, rather than ‘should they be?’. Over time, through repeated workshops and discussions with colleagues, I began to see that the material could evolve into something greater. I had the foundations for a book. Beginning with a moment of avoidance, sustained by years of clinical practice and shaped by the voices of fellow counsellors and clients alike, this book is an invitation to consider an existential perspective in trauma work: the interaction between childhood memories that, like silent ghosts, keep trauma alive and the understandable and natural human avoidance that protects these ghosts from being touched and exorcised.